Yesterday, my Mastermind partner asked me if I had been reading obituaries. Not really, I replied, it was kind of a hard thing to do. A few hours after our conversation, I found out that a woman I knew had just died. I didn’t know her well, but it hit hard. She could have been me. She was approximately my age, with children the same age as mine. We used to work at the same place doing similar jobs. Our sons are on the same hockey team. For some reason, cancer chose her, and after a long fight, she finally passed away yesterday.
As I sat in a poorly chosen line at the car wash, I sobbed. Then I became frustrated with the slow lady washing her car. Then I laughed at how ridiculous I was to be cranky about waiting. Then I sobbed again. This lasted for half an hour (she really was slow) and the whole time I moved between tears, laughter, growls, and more tears.
I was glad I was alone because it felt sort of ridiculous to be that upset about someone I didn’t even really know – a handful of conversations maybe. She seemed kind and gentle. I wondered if she had always been that way, or if her illness had changed her in some way.
It’s 3:00 am here and I woke up from a nightmare where some shapeless, nameless thing that I couldn’t see was trying to drag me away. I lay awake, not wanting to go back to that place. I tried to send thoughts of peace and love to her family. Then I tried to sleep. Then I thought: damn, how grateful would she be if she could have woken up like me this morning? Woken up to her beautiful children, to another day with the ones she loves.
So, I get it. I get why the obituaries. I am so grateful. Grateful to be alive and tired. Grateful my feet hurt. Grateful for the laundry I have to do today and the bills I have to pay. Grateful that I found this course and made changes in my life so that I can be here in my life, loving my children with everything I have.
The human experience is strange that way. It takes death to appreciate life. Sad times to appreciate the happy ones. A bad cold to appreciate the day you wake up healthy. Up and down we go – and I am so grateful for it all.
Oh my, your post left me crying with tears of gratitude. Thank you
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What a wonderful enlightenment as we keep looking inward. Thank you.
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Me too!! 🙂
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Thank you, now I really understand the obituary reading even more clearly.
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Such a powerful experience to have and thank goodness for the slow lady in the car wash! Being able to feel what you felt was a magical experience and what a place to do it! 🙂 feeling grateful to have read your post:-)
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I know! She made me sit there and absorb, I so didn’t want to!
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She was an angel 🙂
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Great message. I am more grateful having read your blog about the things we take for granted. I can better appreciate my own situations having read the wonderful insight you wrote about and provided. Thanks 🙂
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Thanks Chris. It really shook up my perspective, glad you enjoyed it
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What a powerful blog. Thank you so much for sharing this.
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Thanks Marilyn
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Giving gratitude in everything…Awesome!!! 🙂
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Blessings to you, Jamie. I appreciate your post. I am grateful for your willingness to share your heart.
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Thank-you Nancy!
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Reblogged this on Thrive Sanctuary and commented:
The Truth Be Told, through the eyes of another beautiful soul in this ever transforming process of the Hero’s Journey with the MKMMA Program
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Thank you for sharing so beautifully the truth of this human experience. Many of the things you mention that lead us back to gratitude have ‘no principle’ as Haanel puts it and reading your blog helped me to understand the essence of this statement to a degree I had yet to absorb it. Thank you. Much Love to you
JEN
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Thank-you Jen!
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Jamie, I must say that your post brought up some not so pleasant memories of someone passing. You are so right that it takes death to enjoy and be grateful for what we do have. When he passed I could not control the emotions that I’ve always tried to deny or hide. I’m grateful for the help in the class. After a life long attempt of hiding what is now one of my greatest strengths, I look back and see the “wake up call”.as my call to the “Hero’s Journey”
Robert
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So wonderful you have discovered one of your greatest strengths. It’s amazing when we learn to let shine those things we hold down. Thank-you SO much for sharing.
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What a beautiful post! I’m so pleased I have had the chance to read it! 😀
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Thank-you!
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Your message loud and clear! I remembered being so grateful the first time I paid my Real Estate Taxes and remain so today. Thanks for the candid and moving description of your experience. You are so right on.
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Thanks Terry, even grateful for taxes 🙂
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I am grateful to have read your post. Yes even if our perspective seems like chores at the time, at least we are alive and have the law of substitution.
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Jaime are you still with us? Hope so but it not, much love and success to you.
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In spirit! It has been a crazy, wonderful trip, but I think I’ve been left in the dust and would benefit from a restart. Thanks for all of the great support and best of luck on your journey!!
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Thank you Jamie for sharing. Don’t quit, jump back in, we need you.
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thanks for the support rex! I’m still here in spirit, just starting over at week 1. i’m keeping up on my pif so i can have access to all of the materials – this journey is for life!
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Great to hear!
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Jamie, The class will end soon. Please stay in touch and let any of us know if we can help you. When the class starts next time, I think you can join in again. You are a terrific person and you know that We care and hold you dear in out thoughts.
Robert.
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Thank-you Robert! Your comments mean a lot. This is definitely a life journey and I will likely give it another go in September. Like Rex says, we keep getting up!!
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I second that Robert!! Certainly don’t beat yourself up Jamie, just like the song at the end of the movie “The Good Lie”,
we fall down, and we get up
we fall down, and we get up
we fall down, and we get up
we fall down, and we get up
………
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